0:00 – Intro
0:31 – Why Goal Setting is Important
14:33 – Goals for the business
30:38 – Prajay’s Personal Goals
39:17 – Jon’s Personal Goals
49:06 – Outro

Intro

so welcome back to everybody we hope you had a good Christmas and a good New Year um we’ve been open for about a week orso now and we’ve spent the past week goal setting and planning for the year both personal and businessrelated so that’s what we’re going to talk about today yes so I’m hoping that we can learn something about how to setgoals and more about the goals that we’ve got for the business and so onyeah well I’ve never really in the past been one that sets goals I I were used

Why Goal Setting is Important

to just sort of drift along what what happens happens and and deal with things as they come upbut seeing as we run so many different projects and stuff I have started in the last fewyears to do goal setting um and I have noticed a difference I think over the past coupleof years I think we’ve done a lot more um and achieved a lot more than we used to yeah potentially but then could itjust be coincidental um like things coming together no because you I mean I guess Iguess some of it some of it would have happened without the goal setting but I do think it is I do think it hashelped because it gives you something to aim for right it’s not just your whatever comes up comes up potentiallyso things like planning planning for these sorts of podcasts and email campaigns and social media campaignsand it it has helped push things forward because you know what you’re aiming for yeah what do you think ofthis quote uh setting goals is the only way to fail in life I mean you can failwithout setting goals so that that was from a TED Talk um that this guy EmanuelAO did I I I watched his uh sort of Ted talk about setting goals about how theythey sometimes lead to you losing self-esteem and confidence when you don’t actually reach that goal I thinkthat comes down to what you said if you were to set a goal that was too far outof reach maybe without realizing it or even if you do realize it um then you mightnot make it but then there’s a whole there’s a whole shoot for the what it shoot for the stars you might aim for them you might get the moon or whateverit is yeah so I think it can help push you forward but it might not alwaysnecessarily be the best thing yeah from a mental health perspective he also brought up the fact that people tend tounderestimate themselves when they do set goals so actually setting goals is alimiter in terms of what you can achieve again that comes down to what you said yeah I guess so I again I mean I’mgoing to talk about this later on but it comes back to the pero principle 802 if you aim if you if you set your goal toaround 80% of what you think think is Out Of Reach although around sorry 20% is OutOf Reach yeah 80% of that would be the moon rather than the Stars that’s I I think most Things fallinto that 820 category um so it’s down to how you said it really was it James Cameron sort ofagrees with you so he says if you set your goals ridiculously high and it’s afailure you will fail above everyone else’s success yeah but then you’restill you’re still failing so that’s true thing is it’s down to how you view it I I wouldn’t view it as afailure like personally I I would in the back of my mind I would know I’m not going to reach every single thing I’vegot on this um list or whatever it is or if the goal is way too far out ofreach so say I was watching a I was in a in a goal setting seminar on Saturdayyeah one of the guys said um his aim was to get like 50 th000 subscribers on onYouTube he’s currently on like 10 and then they were talking for a while the host and this guy um and he said wellwhat happens if you get 30 would you be would you feel like a failure would you whatever said no I’ll be over the moonI’d be amazed by that so he’s aiming for aiming for 50 but deep down he knows that 30 would be a success so it’s howyou perceive it rather than the goal itself perfectionism is quite an interesting concept because on the onehand every single successful person says don’t aim to be perfect because like youultimately won’t get things done and yet like there’s some key there’s a according to the academicliterature there’s a lot of things that um perfectionists do which do lead to success over a long time I would findmyself in that it’s more Nuance than people make out yeah um and one of thethings that like we we said or we or I think I I told told you um yeah overlunch yesterday we were talking about it was it was more people’s attitude to failure that is the limiting factorrather than perfectionist qualities so like a perfectionist is more likely to feel like a failure if they don’tachieve the perfect thing and then that failure puts them off from doing otherthings and I think it’s really similar with goal setting cuz like if you are a total perfectionist and you’re goalyou’re setting goals mhm and you’ve got a fragile sense of self really um so assoon as you fail in something and you fail to reach your goal you lose all your energy yourmotivation and everything like that and you stop yeah um I I’ve definitely been victim to that the past I think I thinkit’s it’s quite easy to do especially if you’re like I said more on the sort of perfectionist Spectrum which I alwayshave been I’ve always been a little bit OCD and like like things to be exact and whatever else but again is 8020 I’veI’ve learned that for for delegation for example for stepping more away from theclasses and doing more of my overall business building stuff I have struggledand Sir said this as well he said you’re really good at delegating I I wasn’t I never was because I’m of the mindset ifyou want something done you do it yourself if you want something done properly you do it yourself but after reading and watching all thebusiness stuff that I look at they say if you can delegate the job and thatperson can do it 80% of what you’ve perceived to be 100 delegate it I’vegenerally not found that to be a problem apart from in teaching I find it hard to let go in that way but I think it’s moreabout letting go than not believing that someone has the ability other peoplethey don’t do it wrong other people do it in a different way yeah it could achieve the same result but it’s justlike you don’t perceive that as being the best like different people of different styles yeah yeah when it comesto or or like it might take longer in my like I would think okay well I can do that in half the time if I did that thatand that but you have to let other people fail in fail in order to learnhow to learn how to do it properly so yeah yeah I I’ve never really had that problem that it’s all meant I thinkyou’ve got more of this this thing so like I’ve never had as much of a problem of like trusting someone to to dosomething but then I do think when someone s breaks your trust or doesn’tsort of live up to your expectations that’s that’s quite hard to take because I I kind of I like to believe in peoplemy view is goal setting can be an important thing but there’s so manydepend there’s so many things that you need to work into the process to make itproductive so why do you think ini it’s an important aspect of life umI again I never used to do this sort of stuff but I think that might have justbeen because of the number of things we were doing as in there weren’t that many things we weredoing so you you were able to keep it in your mind maybe or whatever else butbecause it’s more it’s more obvious when you I think when you got yeah like um when you’re at school you go okay I’mjust going to get on WR like everything set out for you like your goals are laid out for you and then it it becomes a bitmore complex when you like reach 18 go off to University then your goals sort of I think you still have a similar sortof goal it’s like well you’ve got to get this project or or essay or whatever done yeah you get given your deadlinesand and that sort of thing I think even when you go to work say you’re workingfor a company they will give you targets yeah the reason we well the the reason Istarted doing it now is because we are the company yeah we have to set our owntargets true and we are running God knows how many things yeahwe’re working on at least 10 15 projects at a time right but then does that mean that I can’t keep that all in my head Imean I used to be really good at it but nowadays I tend to write stuff down moreI should be utilizing things like Trello and notion and those like projecttracking things mhm but yeah I I do think it is important but I think it isthe level of importance depends on your stage of life and what you’re doing at that point yeah I I actually think likemost people don’t necessarily need to set goals it doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t it just means that I I thinkmost people can go through their entire life not saying goals but most peoplejust amble through life that’s true and I not one of those people anymore yeah II want to achieve more therefore I have to but I still in place to do I stillthink some people can they can go through their whole life not really set goals and actually do pretty well likebut it depends what your definition of pretty well is um but again it dependswhere you’re working if you’re working for a company your goals are set for you like you don’t you can still do well you can still ear a decent amount of moneywhatever else you might not have the same sense of achievement you say that some people dobut you say that but I think actually a lot of CEOs like Executives businessowners are they happy like that’s um no I’ve seen interviews with like clips oflike Elon Moss for example who’s just said people might think that they want to be me trust me you don’t want to beme you don’t want to be inside my head yeah you don’t want to have to deal with the stuff I have to deal with it’s like you can’t just pick one aspect ofsomebody’s life and say I want to be that person because they are famous they have money whatever else you have totake the whole picture yeah you got to take all the pain yeah yeah you haveit’s everything’s an equilibrium you you have to take the pain in order to have the gain or whatever you know yeah youhave to do you’re going to have to go through that pain in order to yeahachieve like there’s loads and loads of people who if they were to compare themselves to M they’re probably waymore happy than he is despite all the things that has achieved sothat I think that’s one of the dangers of when you set stratospheric goals thatlike it might look impressive to other people mhm you might never befulfilled no but I mean it’s not it’s not everything again this goal setting thing I did on Saturday was like threehours long and we had to go through and do you know one year goals three year goals 5 year goals reflect on 2023 whatwill your achieve CHS blah blah blah you had to write your own eulogy which is kind of well very emotional you write downall the bullet points and chucked into chat GPT and it read out your eulogy and what you’ve achieved and whatever elsebut that was really emotional but the one thing that most people put is therelationships and the family stuff yeah even though it was like a business goal settingseminar the thing that made people the most content in life was their friendstheir family their dog whatever their relationships in their life it wasn’t ohI achieved this much money per month or I achieved this many subscribers onwhatever so why what’s the importance of setting goals then if if that’s not thething that brings the ultim but you can set goals for that too you can set goals for that I want to see my family threetimes a week I want to you know I want to meet new friends whatever else they’re still go goal that’s so truebecause as you’ll see when I read out my goals later like they’re more sort ofpersonal than you know yeah so I’m mine yeah and I think I don’t know how much of I’m going to read out but so I’m mineyeah oh no I’m just going to I think I’ll just say the goals because otherwise it will just take ages to CUit’s important as well to I think when you set a goal to think about like what it takes to actually get to that yeah sothis is what I was going to talk about measurability which is quite complicatedI think especially with these you know like these more personal goals yeah soit’s fair enough if you got a business or something like that you might set like okay I want to reach like x amountthis this much revenue or I want to or even if you you run a YouTube channelyou might say I need X subscribers whatever yeah which is all part of my goals anyway but I think with like someof those personal goals in terms of like especially your mental development or something like that they they’resometimes a bit more difficult to measure but then it doesn’t make them less important or and it is possible tomeasure them it’s just that the measurement tools that you use are different they’re differentyeah so goals for the business um classic business goal moreclients uh I I wanted to increase by about 30% so is that so like on arevenue basis yeah on a revenue basis yeah yeah rather than 30% more clients

Goals for the business

because uh well it’s sort of sort of related similar yeah it was the samething I put 30% but in my brain I thought 2025 is probably more realisticbut aim for 30 hopefully 25 um and that’s across both locationsyeah the second goal I had was getting a third Center we did go in for a thirdCenter last year um and we were second in line to get it but the landlord of that Center knewhad a pre-existing relationship with the other person we were competing with and they were with them well we hit lockdownless than a year after opening our second location so we had to restart all over again and that did stop us fromstarting our franchise which is what we were looking to do so by the end of this year I won to get the franchise manualsup and running like written and you know get that get that whole process goingmoving on to YouTube it’s probably a small goal small goals for a lot of people but 500 Subs is the goal for theend of the year um and also get some more clarity on what our channel is what our audiencelooks like what they want um whether they’re conflicting audiences within the same thing um and we are doing a YouTubecourse at the moment as well an online course so I’ll get to the end of that and that will give me some more clarityI’ve got two more network with other creators to getguests in these chairs uh maybe some guest blog posts and yeah that sort of thing and thengoing on from blog post get the website a bit more tidy running a bit better with some better content yeah and morecontent maybe some more downloadables Maybe more paid for items um which yeah links into whatyou’re yeah about to say so I always think it’s a bad idea to focus on toomany things at once especially as I’m more add so like I I need to I need to havemaybe highly concentrated ideas of what to to dobefore and I can’t Veer off into other things otherwise I’m likely to notachieve achieve them so the first goal for the business was tobring about 10,000 viewers to the site per month at the moment we’rehovering around 2 to 3,000 and I’m not happy with that atall uh so there’s a lot of sub goals connected to this but I’m not going togo in too much into that cuz it can be a little dull but it’s basically all aboutSEO and producing better content and and that kind of thing the stuff that Probriefly mentioned but I’m going to sort of concentrate quite heavily on that that will take quite a lot of time andit’s quite a big a big goal the second goal is quite quite difficult but it’sreplacing all my all my tuition hours so to take meaway so much from the day-to-day managing of the center so I can focusmore on these things these uh sort of more holistic ideas and business goalswhich is something that you’ve I strug with well it’s it’s not just that well you enjoy you enjoy teaching Iunderstand why you wouldn’t want to get rid of that but yeah as an as a now owner of the business yeah it’s slightlydifferent your sort of role so and and I found I’ve also found it difficultbecause it I think I’ve identified that I probably need about three people toreplace me like fully mhm um becausethere’s very few people who can teach see key stage one to four that’s that’ssomething that I need to work on see I would I would say that makes you betteras a someone that covers when somebody’s off sick cuz you could replace those four keystage 1 2 3 four with three orfour different people and if any of them are off sick you can jump in so I think that makes more yeah that that’s truebut there’s a lot of classes that I take now and also there’s a lot of people who keep requesting specifically for meand I need to find a way of I had that problem yeah I teach probably about fourhours a week now yeah whereas before it was every day um but what you’ll find isclients usually request the first person they speak to so if or the first personthey have as a teacher so if uh say like Kyra was someone’s math teacher yeah ifthey were to come back in again they would specifically ask for that person if you start introducing new clients toother people they’ll request them cuz it’s a people business at the end of the day but your face is still there likepeople still like seeing me around yeah like they know that I’maround there was there was sad when they were like like like one of the kids kidparents came up and was like where where’s PR is he around these days it’s a bit sad and I was like had that and Iwas like I was like no he’s around he’s just um he’s sorting some stuff out yeahI’ve had that I’ve had that but it’s even if you hand your classes off to other people yeah the fact that you’restill there and the fact that that shows that you’re still involved because people don’t know how the business isbut it also shows that you cross that person that’s taken it it’s like when I came when I come back to seven Kings cuzI’m like literally never here recording days and then one of the students seesme and they’re like oh he’s back and oh I always tell them that uh I killed youand took your classes like where he’s in aing Forest somewhere this is almost true it’s kindof true minus the killing po um like you walked in the other day like he’s notdead he’s here my third goal it sounds sounds it’sridiculously achievable so I was like this can be a nice thing so replace mylaptop yeah it’s reached the point where it can’t can no longer really do basictasks almost I’ve been trying to get you to do that for months yeah but I’ve you know I I believe now is the time so I’maccepting that um it’s about eight years old is like 9 years now 2024 so and aalmost 9 years old so I I need to replace that especially older than the students and also I’m doing more andmore intensive things I think with my laptop so it it requires a bit morespeed um so that’s a nice easy one which is nice it’s nice when goals are very very easy to achieve I know it’s notreally much of a goal but it it will I mean it’s it’s expensive it’s not like acheap yeah it w it will in increase my productivity significantly yeah justplease don’t break it I’ve put on here once I’ve sort of sorted out a lot ofour um a lot of the sort of site issues and that kind of thing then sort ofdoing a weekly blog so doing two blogs a week or something like that for the business will be sort of a goal forlater in the year so reaching that point where I’ve sorted out a lot of the thecurrent issues with and then I can move on to actually creating more content because at the moment I think we need towe got so much content but it needs a lot of organizing and improving and thenmy fifth one is um to create more digital products yeah they to and andlevel of resources that we need once I sort of go through the site so that’s also an important point about settinggoals is sometimes like you can refine your goals As you move through a processI think that’s that’s worth sort of emphasizing because I always find it’sit’s that way whenever I set out to do something there is usually sort of apoint of of change along the way that helps me improve my um initialTarget um a useful and there’s things that you learn along the way as well that you don’t know are possibleso for instance I started writing a Blog and in writing a well I started myown personal blog I mean we’ll link them we’re going to come on to that in a minute yeah we we’ll link we’ll linkthem in the description um PR’s and mine in doing it I did so much research and in doing that research I’vefound things that I can Implement into the business too and I found that Icould change how I I mean implementing these goals the process will changeslightly from the result of what I’ve leared about that’s an important part ofgoal setting is be flexible with it sometimes so obviously you’ve got yourmain goal but then the process that you take to reach that goal the system you put in place be prepared to beopen-minded about changing aspects of the system that aren’t working or whereyou can produce a better result James Clear said um you do notrise to the level of your goals you fall to the level of yoursystems I I definitely think there’s something in that because like I saidwhen you set goals there’ll be a whole load of systems that you put put behind thatgoal so even the so the goal ends up being this nebulous thing over here butthe systems come to the Forefront of your everyday life like they’re thethings that start to matter the I guess the systems are a bunch of mini goalsthat lead you to the main goal yeah because you always it’s always good to break things down I’ve been taught ifyou’ve got Big Goal break it into three parts then break those three things intothree three is just the number isn’t it three three three and break that down more and more you’ve got habit trackingstuff I’ve started using an app called streaks which is quite good I mean my devices are all over here but that’s areally good app there’s things like habit stacking which is again from James cla’s work yeah so these are all minigoals that add up to get you to your yeah biger but but yeah I get I get what he means though because they’re not somuch they’re not really goals as such like as in they’re not really mini goals they’re more like habits like he saidthings that you put in place to reach the goal so I do see that distinction becoming very important I Alalso think when you make the goal your main focus alonemhm what happens is when you reach a goal you feel disillusioned and you don’t enjoy the journey towards the goaland I think that’s like that’s the main thing I think that’s actually a really Salient point so I think it’sclever what he he said there that is about systems rather than the goalitself although I don’t know the the goal sort of exists which is is kind of a strange thing but I I get how it’s notthe main focus it’s like you know you know I was talking to surve and he wasabout 11 plus prep um so your main goalmight be get a past 11 plus right or your main goalmight be to get a nine in GCS mass or something like that but surv would saythat’s not a good goal to have he he’d say focus on masteringeach each topic so you understand it inside out reach level Mastery in in itand the success will come as a result of that and that that’s kind of a similar idea I think that’s true because whenyou focus like you can fail the 11 plus you can fail to get an ny but on reflecting on that process notthinking so much of the final point but thinking about the journey that you’ve taken to do it did you put in that workdid you work hard enough did you umImplement systems in in place to sort of bring you to that pointum that’s where the satisfaction comes in yeah it’s not not from achieving thegoal because like I said the achievement tends to be the the thing that’s disdisappointing at the end because you’re like you reached that point and you’re like okay yeah well there’s so many people who’ve become billionaires andstuff like that millionaires they’ve achieved incredible things like for for us like looking at thembut do they actually feel happy no an initial do mean hit I’ve done it andthen what now yeah that’s it and and then a lot of them end up go what do I do next like they just start do you knowwhat most of them do they start a new business yeah they do that’s true yeah it reminds me of you um only fors onhorses you know where the one where they actually become Millionaires and he goes back he’s got his big mansion hissnooker table he’s playing by himself and he goes back to his old flat yeah and he’s like pretending with thebriefcase to run down you know yeah like it’s it’s it’s an initial it’s a it’s aspike and then it’s and that’s the thing is as well because that was a that’s a agoal that was always a goal but then but then it was it’s the journey that’s the the fun part the fun part and andbecause and and that’s the thing with like lottery winners for instance is like if they they they get a winfulm is well they they might not but is that as it’s not as filling as buildingit yourself like whether or not yeah no no I would I wouldn’t want to win I justwouldn’t I’d want to be yeah doing what I’m doing now no I get I get what I totally get what you mean because it just feels like you’d be like oh I’llbuy a house I’ll invest here here and here and then then what I’m not buildinganything I I would start doing something different I’ve already I mean we’re going to go into it now I’ve already started doing something different thisyear yeah because even even building this isnot enough I want to keep doing other stuff so I get what you mean it’s like I thought about sort of retiring early andthat kind of thing and my mind I would go out of my mind no I’d get it I’d get it initially and then I’d suddenly gookay what next like what what’s what’s the next thing to toachieve so that those were the business goals we’re going to go on to briefly talk about what our personal goals arebecause I think we’ve both at the same time at the end of last year seem tohave done the same thing that’s true yeah um I don’t know if that’s telling of anything I don’t knowbut we’re the sort of people that can’t really sit still for too long I know that I can’t that’s true yeah so I set

Prajay’s Personal Goals

myself some personal goals for this year and I never really do um New Year’sresolutions but for some reason just felt inclined to get some stuff doneyeah so uh my first goal was to build a personal website which I havestarted um during the seven days I got off between yeah December 24th and areopening on the 3D um that goal I actually well startedto achieve during that one week off um and I wanted to start blogging doing myown blogs yeah um I’ve never been much of a started writing that was yourinitial thing that you I wanted to get better at writing yeah cuz I’ve never been much of a writer even at school I was not much of awriter I preferred building things physicallyuh non- physically how do how do I word that so my point is I like to buildthings so like DT was my favorite subject but I also like to do music techand produce songs and stuff like that yeah so it’s technically building something but it’s not like a physicalthing I just like things like creating stuff um so I wanted to get better atwriting so I have started a personal blog um I’ve done one post so far and the post is this literally what I’m II’ll leave a link to it as well it’s literally what I’m reading out now um because I found that all of myeverything I’ve ever made is scattered scattered around so I have uh DJ stuffin one place music production stuff another place uh graphic design work in another websiteum photography photography is on Instagram and everything is just everywhere and after following a lot ofthese business people productivity people on YouTube and reading about howit all works they have a personal brand yeah and their personal brand is they havetheir website and all of their stuff is is there every book they’ve written videos whatever you know it’s all in oneplace um so I wanted to get that done want to start building a personal brandum read nine books again I was never much of a reader or writer um but lastyear I I I’ve been actively telling myself that that I am a reader andtrying to incremental steps oromic habits you know bit by bit yeah um andthen start by reading one page a day and then it mov to 3 minutes a day 10 minutes well just gradually building upand now I read pretty much every day last year I read eight books so this year I went for nine um and I used goodreads to track it all so it’s all on there um one of the bookswas um daily stoic yeah we both bought the same bookat the same time it was like pretty much yeah literally the same exactly the same was it the same day like it was yeahsame weekend yeah crazy daily St by Ryan holiday 366 State quotes one for eachday of the year cuz a leap year and it’s a leap year this year so it works verywell mhm I read one this morning I can’t remember what it is right now I think it was something about vicesand habits they’ll be about internalizing those those ideas yeah umthat’s the thing with like you know when you you read like say you read a ridiculous number of books it it’s aboutremembering it it’s like yeah it’s all very well reading 54 books or whatever ayear but what do you actually absorb and Implement and I think like Nine’sprobably a good it’s it’s more than you know if you read those nine books wellthen yeah it’s more valuable and it’s a mixture like I mean I pretty much exclusivelyread self-help books business books orbiographies um rarely read fictionum but this is including you know audio books as well yeah um so that’s that’sthat I won’t go into too much more on that but that’s there um one of two twoscary ones start therapy which is something I literally put off for theentirety of 2023 just didn’t do it yeah but I thinkit will unlock a lot of doors for me it will it will it will get me um it’ll get it will help me toachieve my goals Yeah by un I mean I’m going have to break everything down first and then rebuild myself it’s kindof how it works this one I’m not too sure about personal YouTube channel yeah I’m enjoying making videosum I can’t always I don’t always do videos on what I want on this channel soI’m thinking about doing that I’m not sure what the brand is going to be I’m not sure it’s going to work I don’t know if I’m going to be using this space Ihaven’t I haven’t thought through um but I do have an idea for my first videowhich I’ll come back to because my next point is the journal more so I’ve done Steven Bartlett’s the diary thejournaling uh 12 12 weeks I started on January 1st 2023 and you check in withyour health Finance blah blah blah you make you know Zer to five thing you geta score and it tracks it every at the end of every week so you can see you like all play out you scan a QR codeum it gives you feedback on your scores and it produces or throws up three videos related to where you where theythink you are yeah in your in your journey the videos weren’t always completely um accurate for mysituation but they were still useful and obviously he’s got contacts that know all this sort of stuff from doing his DCEO podcast you know so he’s called on a few of those people to to make videosjust a couple minutes two three minutes um and then last year finished thatstopped journaling for a bit bought myself a notebook did journaling justunprompted but the regularity dropped like I wouldn’t be doing every day I started doing everyday then it went every couple days and it s dropped off this year I’ve gone to start mindJournal which is prompted and you can uh track how you feel and that sort ofthing so I think my first video even when I do start my own channel it’sgoing to be Steven Barlett diary versus mindful versus mind Journal versus uhunprompted blank journaling and what I found yeah cuz I did actually look to see if there was a comparison betweenthe two um when I was buying mine journal and I couldn’t see one contentGap all it’s interesting that we put well you’ve put Journal more asyour goal and then mine is um mine’s implemented into my sortof holistic goal and as in journal sort of part of a system that can lead toyeah well it’s still part of a system that can you know it’s it it comes back to having all thedifferent things in your mind and not have you know back in the day when you had a couple things to think about youcould just internalize and you could do it in your head but there is so much going on in personal life and businesslife that it’s good to get that down on paper just to just to organize your thoughtsif anything else so those are my those are my personal goalsum yeah I think I’ve missed anything no personal blog yeah which is part of thewebsite yeah those are my personal goals um so let’s go on to yours I mean yours were pretty similar in some ways yeahthey were they were similar in some ways but I’d say um what I’ve done is I’ve done eachgoal and there’re sort of these strange again we talked about that measurability thing MH um so when something is

Jon’s Personal Goals

quantitative it’s easy to understand what measurement would um sort of helpyou establish that you’ve reached that goal like like I said like 50,000subscribers or whatever um but mine are so sort of nebulous that or they’re abit different so I find that the measurement tools that you use to understand whether you reached a goaland some of these are are sort of not they’re not like an end point as it as such they’re just things to likecontinually work at um m in that case you you’ve got you’re going to havedifferent indicators so I’ll just give you um my four goals so my first goal is to becomemore emotionally intelligent now that’s like as you seethere’s no like numbers necessarily involved with that no it’s a continuous growth yes um but there’s certainindicators that might help me establish whether I’ve sort of got closer to thatso yeah it’s more about my personal relationships with other people and then if I gauge them to beimproving then I’ve sort of not reached my goal but I think it’s I’ve got closerto it you’ve improved yourself in some way yeah I feel like I need to go the other way I’m like I’m like in terms ofemotional int St I’m like the other the other end I need to bring it I need to dial it down a bit as I’m I’m kind ofsuper super super logical sometimes I think I missed stff because of that and it’s probably the add a little bit aswell um so my second goal is to become closer to my authentic self again itsounds a bit like nebulous and and strange no but I get what you mean cuz and that basically means like youyou need to well what I want to become is a bit more honest overallso honest with what I think and actually understand my ownthoughts better which is is something that I don’t know some people probably don’tthey probably go okay well I think this therefore this but then I think with me no filter with with me it’s it’s a lotmore complicated that relationship so well I think as you grow up you learn tocreate yeah you devel and you wear different masks in different situations yeah which which isa good thing I think like the fact that you can you’re able to do that but then myproblem is I don’t know which ones were real me anymore yeah and so I feel a bitlost in that way I think the the thing is is that again how will you measure that I think it it will come across interms of the confidence that I feel in the decisions that I take and and that kind of thing so it’s a bit a bitstrange um but that’s my my second goal so my goal three is um reduce dependenceon Pleasure and shortterm fulfillment I think there everyone could do with a bitof that yeah um I think modern society is is brings up somany s problems with this related to this so everything’s designed forshortterm fulfillment rather than long-term umaims and goals and that kind of thing um and what I want to do is I want to sortof wean myself off that in as many ways as I can so for instance one thing thatI’ve I have done in my life is I I don’t really drink drinking alcohol um because Idon’t think it’s you usually the reason why we we drink that is to S remove asort of social barrier in a sense is to remove the mask yeah yeah andI I don’t want to be reliant on those those those things um and it’s alsoabout dopamine and the dop the rewards system in our in our bodies um whattends to happen is people can become addicted to things that give that dopand mean release yeah or Spike and that overall is not good because you can endup becoming dependent on it now that doesn’t doesn’t mean that dopamine is bad it’s obviously not otherwise wewouldn’t have it it’s actually the thing that helps you get out of bed in the morning it’s it’s extremely importantthat we have dopamine people with Parkinson’s disease struggle to actually create dopamine in the first place soultimately if you had like a a life without dopamin you’d be you’d have Parkinson’s disease yeah it’s like it’slike everything you need to balance right but I do think that the balance is set in a certain direction especially inmodern society and for many people yeah it’s it’s we won’t go into a whole thingbut that is it’s set up like that on purpose you know yeah economically is otherwise peoplewouldn’t buy anything well yeah that that’s exactly it is like there there are balances but because it’s so setover that direction but that’s that’s how people sell your stuff yeah I definitely have a problem withthat yeah I know that I do and then my fourth goal is is practicing gratitudeand that actually sort of links to what PR said about journaling because that’sactually part of part of that process so those are my um th those are my goalsfor for the year and they might seem they they might seem sort of hardto measure but I do think they’re achievable as in theythey’re they’re measurable but in uh qualitative ways not quantitative mhmyou’ll know when it happens you’ll see an improvement yeah exactly that’s that’s that’s that’s the thing that I’m sort of looking for um I could put Icould put purely quantifiable goals like everything quantifiable but it’s I Ithink it’s I think quantifiable goals are more for business for business or like personal wealth and that kind ofyeah like wealth or like I want to write two personal blogs a month or I want toyeah get this number of hits on my Pinterest or whatever it is yeah butwith things like even journaling I want to write in my journal every day which I’ve done every day this up from 1 cuz Iwas out in the evening but I’ve done it every day I’m using the streaks app to keep track of all of it that’s whereJame James Clear s comes back into like so creating a system so I write at thistime it’s like my blogging I do on Friday I do on a Friday generally andmight carry on on Sunday depends yeah to me it’s when it’s when we have our days off so yeah not that we not that we’regood at taking days off yeah so that’s that’s in a nutshell what we’re sort ofup to and that’s those are our goals for 2024 okay I’m going to leave you withtwo analogies that I wrote as part of the business emailcampaign that’s going to be going out soon imagine that you are a captain of a ship but you don’t have a specificdestination in mind instead you decide to allow the wind and currents to guide you but unfortunately this approachcould lead to disastrous consequences you could be Shipwrecked or end up on some unintended Island um you could beor you could crash and sink right you’ve you’ve driven like a speed boat or a pedalo before right if you’ve if you’vedriven a a any sort of boat before you’ll know that steering is easier when the boat is in motion if you were to siton the dock and move it’s really hard to push the water out the way uhessentially a the boat once the boat is in motion it’s easier to to stay right sotherefore it’s best to set off in the general direction of your destination and make constant adjustments along the way and that way it’s easier to ensure you reach your desired goal safely andmy second one I mean I haven’t come up with these These are well known these are well-known things so another analogy imagine you are a pilot very similar Pilots are taught a rule is called a one in 60 rule you heard of that one in no so the one in 60 rule states that for every 60 miles flown a one degree error in heading will result in straying off course by one mile so one degree 60 mil means you’re one mile offso to put that into context I did some M yesterday if a pilot is flying from JFKin New York to Gatwick in London and they were off by one degree when they started off um and they continued without doing any of the course correction that we spoke about in the boat analogy um they would end up 24 miles off Target which is in the middle of the English Channel brilliant

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